(Check out this recent article in Marie Claire,
and this one by renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel.).
I asked Perel what a betrayed partner should say to friends who judge them for staying.
For in-depth information about healing after infidelity, I suggest reading Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs, and my own book, Out of the Doghouse.
When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner that we are turning away from,
but the person that we have ourselves become,” Perel says.
When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner that we are turning away from-
but the person that we ourselves have become," Perel says.
Psychologist and bestselling author Esther Perel, in her keynote at SXSW in Austin last week,
proclaimed that“relationships are our stories” and that we should“write well and edit often.”.
While there is no data to support the common assumption that polyamory impairs attachment or is risky to the longevity of a pair bond, and,
in fact, Perel and others acknowledge that it may be just the opposite,
I suspect that whether polyamory or monogamy does more to stabilize a relationship depends upon the individuals involved and their life experience.