By contrast, people with borderline personality disorder, along with those who
are anxious and depressed, engage in maladaptive Ier strategies that don't reduce their distress
but only make it worse.
However, people don't like to be around you when you do this, so as an Ier approach, it won't help
but will just make you more isolated and unhappy.
In contrast to those who lack emotional
control, when distressed, people high in Ier(Interpersonal Emotional Regulation) are indeed able to
engage in such stress-busting strategies as seeking social support and sympathy from the important people in their lives.