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    Here is what Dr. Gottman has to say:.

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    You can purchase Gottman's book here.

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    Notice that Gottman also used the term‘acceptance', rather than‘tolerance.'.

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    And according to John Gottman's, criticism and contempt are relationship killers.

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    Gottman recommends a daily ratio of 20:1 positive to negative interactions.

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    John Gottman had made extensive study of what makes marriages succeed and fail.

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    I follow the work of eminent marital researcher and therapist, John Gottman.

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    According to John Gottman, a world-renowned relationship expert, not all conflicts can be resolved.

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    Gottman has found that“only 31% of couples' major areas of continuing disagreement were about resolvable issues.

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    According to Dr John Gottman of the Gottman Institute, happy couples have a 5:1 ratio of conflicts.

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    Renowned marriage specialist John Gottman calls contempt one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse in marriage.

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    John Gottman's research confirmed that constant criticism is one of the four signs of a deteriorating relationship(Gottman, 1999).

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    The secret of a happy marriage, according to Gottman, is in a loving, careful attitude to a partner, even during a quarrel.

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    Gottman argues that this kind of unspoken contract is full of anger and resentment because each partner is consciously or subconsciously keeping score.

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    Gottman's essential advice for boosting positivity in relationships is to respond when your partner makes a bid, obvious or subtle, for your attention.

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    Gottman also came with the“The Four Horsemen of Apocalypse”(1. Criticism, 2. Contempt, 3. Defensiveness, and 4. Stonewalling) model to predict if the relationship can survive.

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    As for books, I recommend the marriage and parenting books by Julie and John Gottman, which focus on how couples handle conflict, and how conflict erodes the union.

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    Using Gottman's methods to analyze an hour of a husband and wife talking predicts with 95 percent accuracy whether that couple will still be married 15 years later.

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    In 2014, researcher John Gottman listed kindness and generosity as the two most important elements in a lasting union, and more and more studies are linking generosity with happiness in general.

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    Renowned relationships and marriage researcher John Gottman has found that one of the characteristics of successful husbands- husbands whose marriages are long and happy- is that they accept their wives' influence.

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    Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine our success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.”- John Gottman.

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    Several years ago, addressing a large audience of several thousand marriage educators at a SmartMarriages conference, Gottman said with great confidence,“Of course we all know that all couples fight…” Here's better marriage advice about fighting.

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    This behavior is highly toxic in adult relationships- marital expert John Gottman calls it“kitchensinking,” as in you recall everything your partner ever did that was wrong- but it is absolutely devastating to a child's sense of self.

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    Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships. ~ John Gottman(Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child).

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    Couples researcher John Gottman has revealed that couples who feel and show kindness and generosity towards each other- especially when dealing with disagreements, misunderstandings, and conflicts- have more loving relationships over the long term and greater longevity.

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    John Gottman, one of the first and best observational researchers focusing on marital relationships, says that an eye roll observed during an argument in the first months of marriage is one of the key markers predicting divorce.

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    Relationship expert John Gottman has long asserted that he can successfully predict whether a marriage will last by homing in on the absence and presence of certain key behaviors, which he calls The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.

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    And you can only do that if you accept that your partner not only can, but should change their hurtful behaviors- not because you have tried to do something different(again), but because they care enough about how you feel to do something different themselves(renowned marriage researcher, John Gottman, calls this“openness to influence”).

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    Fredrickson, Losada, and Gottman realized that if you want your business and your personal relationships to really flourish, you will need to generate at least five positive messages for each negative utterance you make(for example,“I'm disappointed” or“That's not what I had hoped for” count as expressions of negativity, as does a facial frown or nod of the head).

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